Remembering Mom…

By May 10, 2010Archive

By Jennifer George – Staff Writer

There is nothing I miss as much as my mother. I guess the old adage is true, you never miss something until it’s gone. As a child, I took for granted my mother’s love as something that would always be there. Then at an early age, my mother died and left an empty space that has never been filled. How fortunate to have shared a mother’s love through friends’ mothers and other wonderful women along the way, who have showed me countless lessons in mothering.

My favorite memories of my mother were when my sister, mother and I went to nursing homes to sing and perform for the residents. My mother taught me that people of all ages have value, and all people deserve love and attention. She showed me how to take your talents and put them into service, which is a lesson I greatly appreciate.

Now as a mother myself, I realize the magnitude of a mother’s love and the commitment it takes to raise a child. It is out of gratitude and admiration that I have gathered quotes and lessons learned from area business and civic leaders to salute mothers, creating a virtual bouquet of beautiful flowers to share with you. Happy Mother’s Day.

My mother has taught me many life lessons like: how to treat others, how to believe in myself, and how to recognize and utilize the gifts I’ve been given and that service is a way of life, not
something you do when people are watching. It’s something you do because you know in your heart it’s the right thing to do. I often hear “you didn’t have to do that” when I’ve made some kind gesture and I always respond with, ‘I have to sleep at night.’ My mother raised me right. However, the greatest impact my mother has had in my life is how to recognize and appreciate a great woman like her… I
found one and married her.”
— Mitch Capel, Gran’daddy Junebug

At the age of 4 and now at the age of 44, Mom always knows what to say to make things
better in any situation. There is no measure to the sacrifice and endless giving Mom does for her kids. Thanks Mom, for everything.”
—Rich Rushforth, Star 102.5 FM

My mother taught my sisters and I these words to live by and I’m so appreciative for all the
gifts she has given me, ‘Keep an open mind and an open heart, they will fill with knowledge and love…and love your family always.’”
—Linda Pearson
Executive Director,
United Way of Moore County

Brownson Memorial Presbyterian Church
The greatest lesson my mother taught me was to have a positive attitude. Everything is about your attitude, and a smile can start your whole day off right. She taught me to never stop laughing and to not be afraid to laugh at yourself. She always had her own personal style and was
generous to pass that on to me. She never felt she had to be someone else. She would say, ‘Do
the best you can, and find your own style, you have to do it with style!’”
—Hunter Hess, Restaurateur
That’s A Deli, Old South Diner

How do I love thee, Mother? I cannot count the ways. What are the reasons I love thee,
Mother? Let me count just two ways.
1) I love thee because you love my wife as much as you love me. I am so thankful for that love.
2) I love thee because you allow me to love my wife as much as I love you – never a competition, always a collaboration, a team effort, a sharing of love. I am so, so thankful for
that love.Thank you, Mother! Happy Mother’s Day! I love you!”
—Grady Perryman, Pastor

My mother was an amazing woman, simple, honest, smart, funny and kind. A source of much joy to me now is seeing so much of the dear woman in my own daughter. I believe the two most important lessons from Mom were:
1. Be accepting, don’t judge. She would say, ‘To handle yourself use your head. To handle others use your heart.’
2. Time spent with loved ones is ALL important. Once in a card to me she used the words of Graham Greene…The only love which has lasted is the love which has everything, every disappointment, every
failure, which has accepted the fact that in the end there is no desire so deep as the simple desire for
being with each other.”
—Kate Tuomala, Owner
Audiology of the Sandhills

Boles Mother's DayMy mother instilled in me a love for community service at an early age. She was the first
elected female Town Commissioner in Aberdeen. She was a great role model for me in public
service. Our family had a retail store when I was growing up, and she taught me customer service and that the ‘customer is always right’. I’m fortunate to have such a young mother, we grew up together.”
—Jamie Boles, CEO
Boles Funeral Homes
N.C. House of Representatives

“The most important trait my mother instilled in me is independence and self-responsibility. She often stated I inherited wanderlust from gypsies (I am part Hungarian on her side) as I attended school in both Ohio and Arizona before moving to North Carolina for work. I go out of my way to ‘step foot in’ as many states as I can – 40 so far – and look forward to eventually getting to the other ten.”
—Reagan Parsons
Southern Pines Town Manager

My mother has been gone fourteen years now, but I’m sure that the greatest gift she gave me was the ability to laugh–especially at myself. My mother laughed a lot, and it made her a person people wanted to be around. She would often use humor in even the toughest of situations–and that’s something I try to do in my life. Like most of us, I owe my mother a great deal–everything, really. But her greatest gift to me was to pass along her sense of humor.”
—Dr. John R. Dempsey, President
Sandhills Community College

Mother’s Day has been special to me since my second daughter was born on Mother’s Day in 1965. My mother, Emma Washburn of Martinsville, Va., died in 2001. This is a story I wrote
about her years ago.

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She was a feminist without knowing it, a woman’s libber before there was such a thing. She was a career woman from necessity rather than desire. She never had time to “find” herself, but she never felt the
need to look. A divorcee when divorce was the exception to the rule, she went her way without resentment, self-pity or collapse. Although she spent her life in the competitive world of business, she retained her femininity and never lost the grassroots upbringing that was hers. A modern woman of the old school, she passed on a lasting faith through example as well as word while she hemmed granddaughters’ dresses, crocheted afghans, baked cakes, planted and arranged flowers. Her education was limited, her grammar imperfect; still, she addressed hundreds without a qualm. And she took care in the nurturing of an offspring, the building of a home, the instilling of faith, manners, character and education. She was tough without being shrill, sympathetic without being soggy. Her son-in-law said it best, “Now that’s class.”
—Cos Barnes
Local Author

The best lesson that I got from my mother was her approach to life. She was always calm and collected. I can never really remember seeing her visibly mad or upset. She had the ability to always show a calm front even though she might be really upset inside. This lesson fits well with my work. I would like to think I get the strength to make good sound decisions from her. I miss her very much.”
—Hampton Williams, Fire Chief
Town of Southern Pines

My mother was always there for my sister and I growing up, but it was not until I became a mother that I appreciated the true value of all she has given me in life, and now to my boys. She truly is the rock of our family, preserving and passing along values and traditions. She is the one person I always know will be honest with me. The greatest lesson I have learned from her is the importance of prayer in my daily life. She often reminds me that I am not the one in control and that sometimes you just have to give it to God and be patient. I often call her to talk about challenges in my life, and she simply listens and says “this too shall pass”. She is giving this same foundation to my children, and I know that the legacy she leaves will be with us always. This is the best gift a mother can give.”
—Amy Natt, CEO
Aging Outreach Services

We had an expectation in our house laid out by my mother that dinner time was family time. As a family we would cook together and set the table. And everyone would have clean up
assignments, too – putting leftovers in the fridge, washing the pots and pans, and loading the dishwasher. It was our dinner preparations, sharing and cleanup that acted as our time to reconnect and plan as a family. Not only
did my mom teach us all how to cook using fresh ingredients, but she taught us the importance of
having family time every day. This has become a tradition that we carry on today with our family.”
Patrick J. Coughlin, President & CEO
Moore County Chamber of Commerce

My mother has been there with me through every exciting moment of my life from reading
nursery rhymes to watching my hooding during my doctoral graduation ceremony. Probably
some of the grandest days were the days my daughters were born. Again, she was there guiding me. I have always wanted to grow up to be what she has been — a devoted wife, a loving and generous mother, a cherished grandmother and now great-grandmother. Thanks, Mom, for showing me the way and how to find the greatest joys of life!”
—Susan Purser, Superintendent
Moore County Schools

Many years ago my mother, in Portugal, was diagnosed with Alzheimer’s and had to be cared
for in a facility. It was a very difficult time for our whole family, but we knew she was getting
the best possible care. One particular nurse shared that it was her mission to provide care and
compassion for my mother. I realized that in spite of the difficult disease and what it had done to my mother, the best lesson I could have was to take that same compassion into my work. It is now my
mission to provide for those, who have mothers like I did, who need the compassion and care but are unable to provide it on their own.
Tony Paz
Director of Resident Support Services
Belle Meade Retirement Community
St. Joseph of the Pines