October 2014: Our spirit never ages

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I seem to have quite a number of clients aged 89 and 90 these days. They overwhelmingly mention how hard this age is for them and the amount of changes that seem to come about overnight, making them see unrecognizable faces in the mirror.

One client wisely quipped, “I just don’t know what to expect anymore. This is my first time being 90, after all.”

Wise words. We are all just novices at our current age. What we seem to be really good at is looking back at our former ages.

Remembering all the things we used to do well and so much faster. It’s hard to realize your current age may not bring with it a new accomplishment, but a remembrance of what you once could do.

Maybe that is why music is a powerful tool for remembering. Music touches us and connects us to the many younger ages of our spirit. Is there an age of our spirit? I recently read a poignant quote: “We all feel younger than we are because the spirit never ages.” That makes perfect sense to me in light of the conversations I have with my clients. Our bodies may remind us of our age when there is a new ache or pain or doctor visit, but our spirit feels years younger.

A favorite musical I heard growing up was “The Fantastiks,” a 1960 musical comedy by Tom Jones and Harvey Schmidt, with its well-known song, “Try to Remember.” The final verse always gives me chills…

“Deep in December, it’s nice to remember,
Although you know the snow will follow.
Deep in December, it’s nice to remember,
Without a hurt the heart is hollow.
Deep in December, it’s nice to remember,
The fire of September that made us mellow.
Deep in December, our hearts should remember
And follow.”

So in our remembering, we are connected to a part of us that we knew, which helps us learn to be the person we are becoming. Music is truly a language of the spirit. What song helps you to remember your younger self?