There’s a popular adage that says, “Old is always 10 years older than your current age.” The older I get, the more this sentiment rings true, which reminds me of a popular song by the Beatles, “When I’m Sixty-Four,” which was featured on the 1967 album “Sgt. Pepper’s Lonely Hearts Club Band.” Paul McCartney was only 16 years old when he penned this “love song.” I’m sure 64 seemed a lifetime away for a 16-year-old. I wonder, now that he is 72 years old, how he feels about the song from his youth.
“When I get older, losing my hair, many years from now.
Will you still be sending me a Valentine,
Birthday greetings, bottle of wine?
If I’d been out till quarter to three, would you lock the door?
Will you still need me, will you still feed me, when I’m sixty-four? “
In my career, I have had the privilege of witnessing mature and lasting love. I know a couple that has been married 67 years. They have seen their share of joys and tragedies. I asked for their secret. They couldn’t come up with just one. They said a lot had to do with their generation and that people just had different values back then. It certainly didn’t hurt they were both Italian, and her aunt and his mother thought they would be a good match and arranged an event for them to meet. So began a love that survived a three-year deployment during World War II and the births of three children—one with special needs—grandchildren and now great-grandchildren.
This couple credits their successful marriage to love, friendship, loyalty, humor and similar family values. They truly enjoy each other’s company. Another secret, they added, is that they never go to bed angry.
As a care manager, I can tell you that their partnership is the key to their healthy aging. They are a true support and friend to each other. If one has been sick, the other picks up the slack. It’s a system that works only because of the collaboration they have fostered together.
Love does not have an age. It transcends time and like a fine wine, only improves. Now, I just need to ask Sir Paul McCartney how he feels about love and aging. I’d venture to guess he would say, “Old will be in 10 more years.”
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